When Pastors Walk Away: Understanding Why Leaders Leave the Church

What happens when a pastor decides to step away from the pulpit? Join us in this week's episode of the Healthy Church Staff Podcast, where we explore the eye-opening insights from a former pastor's candid Ask Me Anything session featured in a recent BuzzFeed article. Discover the real reasons why those in ministry may choose to leave, from burnout and exhaustion to the more complex feelings of disillusionment and theological doubt. With ministry being such a demanding path, our conversation sheds light on these struggles and seeks to foster understanding and compassion.

As a pastor or someone who supports those in ministry, understanding these challenges is crucial. Together, we discuss the feelings of isolation, the daunting responsibilities, and the sometimes overwhelming desire for a different life path. These are not just abstract issues but real, human experiences that can drive a pastor to make life-altering changes. Whether you're at a crossroads in your own life, or you're looking to better support those who are, this episode aims to equip you with the empathy and insight needed to maintain a healthy ministry life.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:07

happy friday to you if you were listening to this podcast on the day it was released. If not, happy monday or tuesday or wednesday or thursday or saturday or sunday. Right, I'm so glad you're here. This is the healthy church staff podcast. My name is todd Todd Rhodes, one of the co-founders over at chemistrystaffingcom, and ministry is a calling and it's a passion and it's a way of life, but it's also demanding and it's a challenging path.

Speaker 1: 0:39

If you've been in ministry for any period of time, you know that, and sometimes pastors, staff members, we find ourselves at a crossroads, questioning our role in the church Are we in the right role? And even sometimes questioning our faith. There was a recent BuzzFeed article that featured an Ask Me Anything session with a former pastor who had just recently left the ministry, and I found his answers to be really honest and vulnerable, and it shed some light on some reasons why pastors walk away from the church. They just say I'm done, I've had it, I'm out of here, and these insights are valuable for all of us, whether we're considering leaving ministry which we all do if we're honest from time to time or if we just simply want to understand and support those who are. So what are the key takeaways from this former pastor's ask me anything. I found five that I thought were really interesting and wanted to bring up to you really quickly today as you head into your weekend.

Speaker 1: 1:42

First is burnout and exhaustion. There's constant pressure to meet the needs of your church and the congregation. The long hours, the emotional toll of ministry can lead to burnout and exhaustion. We've probably all experienced that. But we know people that have experienced that kind of in spades and it caused them to actually leave the ministry. They just couldn't take it anymore. They weren't in a healthy spot and they needed to get out. And it could have been a physical manifestation or an emotional or a spiritual fatigue, but it really does at times make it difficult to continue in ministry. So there's burnout, there's exhaustion. That's one reason why people leave. The second is almost as bad. It's disillusionment and disappointment. Pastors often enter ministry very idealistic, with great expectations, but in reality ministry is tough stuff, man. The reality can be quite different. There is conflict and criticism and resistance to change and it all leads to disillusionment and disappointment for many of us and that's another reason why so many people consider leaving the ministry or have left the ministry.

Speaker 1: 2:54

Third is just theological and personal doubts. Pastors are not immune to questions and doubts about their faith and they may wrestle with difficult theological issues or experience personal struggles that challenge their beliefs. We've talked to candidates that either their theological beliefs have changed or they're just not sure what they believe or if they believe anymore. And that's very challenging if you're a pastor. Believe me, it's one of the reasons why, when we hit these spiritual valleys or these spiritual deserts where we have our theological personal doubts, it's really hard to persevere and a lot of people leave ministry during those times. So that's the third.

Speaker 1: 3:39

The fourth is just a lack of support and community. Ministry can be isolating. Pastors feel like they're carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders and if you don't have that adequate support and community, you may feel like you're overwhelmed and absolutely alone, and you can't do that for long without just giving up and saying I'm out. And then, finally, the desire for a different kind of life. Some pastors simply feel like they're called a different path, and that's okay. That's okay. They may want to pursue other passions and spend more time with their families or explore different career options, and that was really the fifth reason that this pastor gave or that came out in this discussion about why pastors are leaving ministry. So here's your bottom line for today Pastors are human beings yeah, I know that's hard to believe With real struggles and real challenges, and when they walk away from the church, it's often a complex decision with multiple contributing factors. It might not just be one of those five, it might be four of those five that cause them to make that decision. How do you not get there? I think part of it is just being healthy and cultivating that culture of empathy and support for our pastors and for yourself, and recognizing that the pressures that we face are not unique to us and we need to be able to tap into some of the resources for encouragement and team up with other pastors that at least appear to be thriving and get encouragement from them.

Speaker 1: 5:11

If you're a pastor that's struggling or considering leaving the ministry, before you make that decision, please reach out. I'd love to talk with you. I'd love to hear your story. Every one of us has a story and, believe it or not, you may feel like you're alone, but you're not, I guarantee. I've been doing this for a long time. You are not alone, and what you are experiencing other people are experiencing right now and other people have experienced in the past. If there's any way that I can guide you, support you, guide you, mentor you, coach you, I'd love to have a conversation with you and see if that's something that might be helpful to you. You can reach out to me anytime. Podcast at chemistrystaffingcom.

Speaker 1: 5:52

We all get discouraged in ministry, but you can only live in that discouragement for so long before it just absolutely destroys your soul and destroys that calling that God has put on your life. So do not hesitate to reach out to me. Podcast at chemistrystaffingcom. You don't have to reach out to me. Reach out to anybody, somebody that you trust, somebody that you think can help you through this.

Speaker 1: 6:18

It's really important to talk to somebody other than your spouse or family member about this. If you're feeling defeated in ministry and feel like you need to get out. Okay, that's my encouragement today. That sounds like a bummer of a way to end the week on the podcast, but, man, it's so important. I see way too many pastors walk away and I really feel like a lot of the walking away could be stemmed if there was just some good mentorship and some good conversation and some good support, some reaffirming of the calling as it would be All right. Thanks so much for listening. We will be back again next week right here on the Healthy Church Staff Podcast. Tell your friends, tell people you don't even like about the podcast. We'd love to have them listen to it.